Female/Male Incongruities:Are We Ever On The Same Page?

Female / Male Incongruities: Are We Ever On The Same Page?

I noticed the other night while people watching at a local club. For the most part,women sit tight and wait for men to approach
Women seem to go to a lot of effort to figure out what to wear. How much leg to show, how much breast to show... a peak of nipple or not.? See through, not see through.?Dress way too far over the top...wedding outfit or to the other extreme,”I just threw on whatever was laying around when I woke up and decided to get out tonight.”
The shoes are flats or wedges or more often then not some sort of heel 2 inches, to 4 inch stilettos. (Men gape at these.) You can be pretty under fit and unkempt but if the shoe are high enough men's testosterone starts flowing.
Same thing with the length of a skirt. Long,nah! But short enough to invite the imagination to a hands up and you’ve got “traffic.”.. “Traffic” that unmistakable if subtle line up of drooling men who think they may have a chance for a dance or more and after enough drinks a shot at taking you home to bed.
Social life from my point of view varies from city to city. Phoenix is very different then New York where the awaiting females are never disappointment because after some eye contact you can pretty much be promised an approach, a conversation, if only brief, and even a purchase of a drink. As a single women go to a New York club and sit at the bar and as soon that it is fairly obvious that you are alone, the drinks just keep on coming. Men like to buy women drinks in NYC. It is a statement of bravado, machismo, interest and stand up masculinity. Now in Phoenix, wallets come slowly from the pocket. Women sit and sip , men approach and converse and only on occasion even after long sometimes boring conversations do men even offer to buy you a drink in Phoenix.
Of course in Scottsdale there are the golfers, and the trendy bikers, and the occasional businessmen who don’t mind pulling out a few bucks for a lady’s drink. These men are usually not from CHICAGO where men seem not to want to pay for anything much. Not so of the men from Indiana, and Texas,and the farm fed boys of Iowa and Nebraska who are polite enough to treat a lady to a beverage as they politely enjoy her company.
Stay in a club as it gets later after the buzz of the alcohol is on and beer or wine goggles appear and the recreational drug of the evening has kicked in in the ladies room and where ever men do their drugs,,their cars or somewhere in those hidden back rooms...as the night gets close to CLOSING TIME, the moves begin.
Suddenly persons shift from one side of the club to the other...patio guests move inward, inside guests move outward. Scoping out saunterers around the club slow to stops with great intent and intensity in some cases. Suddenly, “ I’ve been watching you from across the bar all night” is a standard line as personal space gets closed in upon and hands begin to touch backs and shoulders,hands. arms. and thighs in an effort to open up the opportunities.
On any number of occasions men stand as far away as stalking beasts waiting for the first man to move away rejected and pounce down on their now warn down prey. Or as has happened to me personally a man suddenly appears at each ear casually first then , more insistent, subtly then more directly, asking if perhaps I should not drive myself home or that they shouldn’t and that a lift to “my place, or theirs” might be far more sensible and a lot more enjoyable.
Of course these men,like the women already mentioned, are sometimes still dressed in business garb or golf wear, hawaiian shirt or Tommy Bahama, Barney’s or Brooks Brothers, Calvin Klein or Tommy, cowboy or baseball hats, to hats you wonder “ what the hell is that?” They are well groomed, or barely shaven, smell like their own sweat ..(not always a bad thing)... or Calvin Klein and are after a night of drinking a few dances and a long week they are tempting .... or perhaps repulsive but in any case persistent.
Do men try as hard as woman do to be irresistible. No...because they are fortunate enough in their DNA to believe that they truly are.
Where we women see our faults and flaws and in every ladies room in front of the mirror tell each other about this or that man’s lame stories, at the same time bemoaning our” bad hair night”, our dress or jeans that just seem too tight or the late night makeup redos and touch ups with the final sighs of “oh well,what ever, they’ll have to take me as I am.” We women in those Ladies’ rooms GET each other. as we wait in lines, share makeup, combs, handout tissues and tampons and toilet paper, and swear that one day one of us will open a restaurant without a men’s rooms and many more numerous ladies room stalls with locks that work and toilets that never over flow, and sinks and counters with plenty of soap, lotions, hairspray, and mouth mints and above all soft lighted mirrors that reflect back more flatteringly on our hopeful faces.

Someday men will GET US or GET IT that we are not such a mystery, we are merely at different hormonal phases, like the moon ,we change, but are not any less beautiful and appreciate reassurances that are SINCERE ,,, and that we know the difference.

Someday women will believe what is proven,that a man’s brain IS wired differently and he really does NOT always hear when he seems to be listening, that he does have, through no fault of his own, selective memory and that it takes anywhere from 3 hours to 3 days for him to process any words which we as woman may speak in emotional intonation.
It really isn’t their fault. The MRI’s have proven the lesser responses of the male brain.
It does not make men any less intelligent or even less emotional, it simply makes them less quick to comprehend what we feel we have made explicitly clear with one simple phrase, hint, repeated.and repeated again.

We as women really do hate to nag and to have to ask for ..... We would rather you figured us out the first time even if our responses are phrases like , “NOTHING !” and “FINE” .

Mostly we really do want what you want and what we both physiologically NEED.
If you as men need the “wow” factor from us, we need the “wow” factor from you.
It is all about feeling at the end of the day : appreciated, needed, desired and loved.

So when you come up behind us in the middle of night with a boner sticking our backs we will gladly position ourselves for you to approach from behind, or wistfully turn to move our breast closer to your mouth, allow our hand to reach to stroke you, quickly or not so quickly make moves or allow for the penetration of your rock hard cock and move with oneness until the final explicit explosion has taken us beyond whatever small deficits may have occurred between us earlier in the day. We want to cum and cum hard too.
Whether it begins in a club, in a movie, on the living room couch, the kitchen counter or in the bed... we want IT... if you have taken the time to get us really GET US... understand that we are after all just looking for the satisfaction of our most primal needs too.
Let me be who I am. I will let you be who you are and in that standing apart we come together in a oneness of a unique bond that need not be written on paper and filed in a court of law. It is in each moment sacred until it is not anymore and then it is time to move to another gift of loving....unless of course you are fortunate enough to look beyond all limitations and differences, to always support each others dreams and truly want to be together for as long as you live.
“Love does not exist,only demonstrations of LOVE.” Jean Cocteau
Life is good!