The FLAWLESS BODY /SEX IN THE MIRROR

I have found myself of late posting lengthy entries to my Facebook page. Political commentaries, baseball notes and updates, my daily nebulous thoughts... It all really is rather meaningless as you know. I don't remember how I got talked into Facebook anyway. Posting regularly leaves yourself open to others scrutiny... because they have had a day when they have nothing better to do then peer into your life and weigh in on yours or at least my "stream of consciousness" comments.
I really don't expect people to take me seriously as even as I write the things, my mind is changing about what I am saying. Perhaps I am not normal. Perhaps I am a bit schizophrenic. I, of course, like to think that I am just a sample of the ordinary woman, with perhaps more time on my hands then some, or at least when having time chooses rather then to shop or garden or watch television or read or gossip about the neighbors heads to my laptop or to my wonderful IPHONE to immortalize a thought.lol
Yes,I have become a Facebook addict.

Now this blog is to be about my sex life which I do not post on Facebook so let me go ahead and be consistent so as not to disappoint.

I did last October enjoy the company of a young man and that went well. Actually it was quite comfortable,not unforgettable but to be frank,we were both pretty toasted from an OKTOBERFEST Celebration. It was in fact simply fun.

Soon after that I had moved to another neighboring city to live with a sweet,and dear man who I adored and still do in a much different way.
I have to say that he was the one man who, in living together, had every opportunity to disappoint but never did. He came with a bonus package of an adorable son, who was impossible not to love. But, alas, seeing that this love of mine for this great guy was not going to go where I would have liked it to go, ( not really sure where that was but would have known it had anything unfolded), I moved back into my own home.

I am wise enough to know that at this point in my life, there are few really surprising let downs, there is only LIFE as it unfolds, and Plan B is always an option.
So PLAN B being what it was to simply stay friends and move out rather then fall deeply into unrequited love, yes, I chose Plan B.

And since then some health issues slowed me down. Some reevaluating and self growth took place and after a commitment to celibacy, I broke down in MAY into the arms of a man who lived in FANTASY LAND mentally. I was immediately aware of this, but hot and horny as one woman can get after a long stint of celibacy I caved. I found myself in bed with the man who collected interesting artifacts displayed throughout his home, two planes (real ones) at the local airport that no longer could fly, and a mirror over his bed.

I had never had the mirror over the bed experience. I had had the mirrors around the room thing, but never the mirror over the bed.
You know the ceiling mirror has its advantages.
Even when you are naked and in the throws of all kind of positions that ceiling mirror is smiling down like the sun reflecting the candle light and making you look pretty damn good, if I do say so myself. Now please know I am the most critical of critical when it comes to my naked body and no lights or soft, soft lights is my preference, but for some reason that ceiling mirror is amazing !
Flashes of flesh and after a while I am thinking, "Oh OK, this is what men see that women do not."
Once we get our clothes off and that close to the actual act, they see these flashes of beautiful, voluptuous, heated passionate body parts. WOW ! Who ever knew?!

I really could not have seen it before this. We actually do look pretty hot.
It was a definite eye opener.
Though, I chose this to be only a one night stand I will forever remember that.

As my friend who I lived with just recently said,"We men don't see what you women see when those clothes are coming off." as he shook his head in disbelief as we women were discussing being self critical and self conscious.

What a REVELATION... it was possible! In that mirror on the ceiling and in their eyes we are outrageous Goddesses of beauty and pleasure.

So my advice is as previously described. Of course be clean,and whenever possible wear the sexy adornments and the pleasant smelling pheromones,,,when getting up to go get that glass of water, or to use the restroom, no need to grab the sheet to cover up, though a soft light from behind you is always most flattering,it is still for us somewhat about the lighting,,, but remember his eyes are not your eyes.
Sing praises for that.
His eyes are more like my friend described,,, oblivious to flaws,,
and remember the eyes of the mirror on the ceiling. I always will.
It is all GOOD... Life IS GOOD !!!

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COCO Before Chanel: The Movie

I watched this movie this evening.
It was a relaxing end to an Easter Day that was somewhat reflective.
There were many good lines in this movie...

"Love is best in Fairy Tales" was one of them.

Now, that is food for thought,isn't it?

We spend our adult lives looking for the right person. We pursue LOVE, a relationship and judge ourselves according to whether or not we "have" a relationship, and how well it is going.
But this question poses a serious consideration.

Is love,True LOVE, Romantic LOVE , the Perfect LOVE with that, at least, almost perfect person, just a fantasy?
Is it just the fodder of fairy tales?

I had always thought not. But I had been blinded by my own perception of the person(s) I chose to love and to love me.

In fairy tales the end is always the happily ever after, isn't it?

It is not, what another line in this movies proposes.
"What does it feel like to be in love?" is the question, and the answer in this movie and perhaps in all of life is: " Love hurts, hurts, hurts."

Of course we know that the feeling of love produces brain chemistry that makes us feel really good,sometimes euphoric BUT love does hurt doesn't it? Because another person can never ever satisfy all our emotional needs,nor should they be expected to.

But expect them to, we do.

We are NOT perfect but we seek perfection in our lovers, and spouses. We expect them always to know what we are thinking, what we need, and,even, to read our minds.
We voice our disappointment when they do not live up to our perception of what I once read is called the,"GIANT SELF."

If they fib to us in an attempt to make themselves more loved and acceptable to us, we accuse them of lying. But who of us has not at least once or twice exaggerated a story just a tweak to make ourselves look better in someone else's eyes.

None of us is perfect, yet we expect perfection.

I am guilty of all of this.
As a woman I have found myself looking for faults in the seemingly "perfect" partner.

If you look for faults in anything in life but especially in the people closest to you, you will find them.
We are harsh judges.
Why is that? When most of our religions teach us to be compassionate, understanding, merciful? Perhaps it is base human nature.
As it is that in beginning stages of any relationship things seem perfect. Even the most hideous of our habits are charming to our new love. With time and familiarity those very same habits become annoyances.

We are strange creatures,human beings. All of this is because even though we are Spiritual beings, we exist in this time and place in human form.
Human form with all its flaws and imperfections.

As a romantic I still have hope that some day someone will love me even with my faults and flaws. That they will over look my foolish exaggerations, they will forgive that I snort when I laugh heartily, and maybe even that I snore.

In this movie, about the earlier years of Coco Chanel, she is determined to never marry.

Coco Chanel never did marry, though she did, as portrayed in this movie, fall in love.
She considered love somewhat of a foolish emotion. Perhaps she was far wiser then myself.

Foolish as it may be, we crave being loved. We desire to be in unity with GOD and with another human being.

We convince ourselves we don't need it, don't want it, but eventually IT is there.

There is a moment when we make a decision to love.
It is my experience that in that moment when we make a subconscious decision to once again return to the neediness of twelve year old little girls, or fifteen year old little boys, we make a decision to trust.

Trust.
Have you thought about the enormity, the power of that one word and concept ???

Yet at some point,outside of the fairy tale,in real life we walk to that cliff and we feel ourselves falling. In that moment of pure insanity we decide to allow ourselves not just to fall off that cliff. In that moment we decide to jump, and in that moment of deciding to jump we hope with all our Faith and with all our TRUST that we will FLY.

But as a sometimes skeptic, just perhaps the other line in this movie that struck me is more accurate. "The most interesting thing about being in love is making love. Too bad you need a guy to do that."

Now,lesbian relationships, aside,,, and please if you are a man insert the word "woman" for the word "guy" in the above sentence. (I'm sure Coco Chanel would not mind.)
Then tell me... IS love best in fairy tales?

I only wish I could be absolutely sure.
I still pursue the reckless abandon of it.

You will probably one day find me, if you haven't already, standing on the edge of that cliff hoping to fly. Part of my human nature deceives me into believing that, apart from all of you who fail in it, I will soar.
My love will be the happily ever after.
And so the folly of this human dilemma.

I wish you all the exuberant joy of that fabulous fall.
I'm only human, after all.
I say,"Go for it!"

Life is so Good.

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The Silent Epidemic in American Families

The Tragedy Of Todays American Family:

Everything on the outside looks so together, when really, all that there is, is a semblance of a picture perfect loving unit we call family, when the reality is a unit of strangers living together getting out of the way of each others' fears and hurts.
The silent epidemic of not ever learning how to love,self or others.